http://www.ericasp.com/blog.php?disp=comments en-EU http://backend.userland.com/rss 60 Fri, 31 Aug 2007 22:57:14 +0000 Arnold Anonymous [Visitor] c1179@http://www.ericasp.com/ Eric, thanks for your elaboration on theoretical aspects. Once again, your style of writing makes it very accessible for even the staunchest opposer of your view on this matter. <br /> <br /> Personally, I think another crucial aspect in dating (or considering dating) is being prepared to suffer in case of rejection and accepting it when it actually happens. This might be off topic and I'm not suggesting that a possible negative outcome is to dominate one's thoughts on dating or relationships. What I am saying is that thinking about this and your own reaction to such a thing somewhere along the way reveals so much about one's motivation for pursuing a relationship: is it just to meet my own personal (emotional) needs or do I include things that actually go beyond my own desires? Once someone is capable of saying: "I'm willing to pay an uncomfortable price of dissappointment when things do not turn out the way I want" the whole proces has not been in vain, but pleasing to the Lord. <br /> <br /> I don't know whether my comment perfectly lines up with the message of your entry. In any case, it does line up with the topic of your series and it is what I wanted to share anyway :)<br /> <br /> "Arnold Anonymous"
Personally, I think another crucial aspect in dating (or considering dating) is being prepared to suffer in case of rejection and accepting it when it actually happens. This might be off topic and I'm not suggesting that a possible negative outcome is to dominate one's thoughts on dating or relationships. What I am saying is that thinking about this and your own reaction to such a thing somewhere along the way reveals so much about one's motivation for pursuing a relationship: is it just to meet my own personal (emotional) needs or do I include things that actually go beyond my own desires? Once someone is capable of saying: "I'm willing to pay an uncomfortable price of dissappointment when things do not turn out the way I want" the whole proces has not been in vain, but pleasing to the Lord.

I don't know whether my comment perfectly lines up with the message of your entry. In any case, it does line up with the topic of your series and it is what I wanted to share anyway :)

"Arnold Anonymous"]]> http://www.ericasp.com/blog.php/2007/08/31/the_dating_game_principles#c1179 Fri, 31 Aug 2007 14:32:52 +0000 Laura Bunselmeyer [Visitor] c1178@http://www.ericasp.com/ Such endless twittering... "...it's foolish and immature to talk endlessly in circles about the possibilities for a relationship with a "special someone" with dozens of other people before actually talking to that "special someone" directly." Ahhh, that little nugget of thought hits home in uncomfortable ways... This post was a nice synopsis of your perspective...and I really liked the links to the specific sections of scripture you were referencing from/with. I really appreciate you discussing this series on your blog. The timing of it was definitely key for me personally. Our pastor at church also just wrapped up a series on marriage so it has been interesting to be looking at this issue from different angles. Laura http://www.ericasp.com/blog.php/2007/08/31/the_dating_game_principles#c1178